Name: 增進彼此關係的8堂實踐課（8堂）
Start: 2024-08-08T18:00:00-07:00
End: 2024-12-05T20:00:00-08:00

增進彼此關係的8堂實踐課（8堂）

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和孩子的對話，和另一半的互動，和父母的關係，在人際互動中，有卡關嗎？

學了一些心理學理論，但問題沒什麼改善，覺得學這些沒什麼用。

真的「沒用」，就沒用。

如果沒有去「使用」這些理論方法，只是停留在頭腦去理解，生活的確不會改變。

很多人都能背出薩提爾的四種「應對姿態」，也知道「薩提冰山」的每一層。

但是，你知道自己最常出現的應對姿態是什麼嗎？你的家人又是如何應對你？

這樣的應對姿態下的冰山底層的信念(觀點)、期待等又各是什麼嗎？

你能夠帶著覺察靈活地運用各種「應對姿態」嗎？或是總是被慣性驅使，而只展現某種樣貌嗎？

你了解自己嗎？常常想做，但是又做不同。我自己內在發生了什麼？

如果以上也是你的疑問，好消息來了，

舞象基金會特別推出「增進彼此關係的8堂實踐課」，八堂課有不同主題，每次課程皆有理論和實做。透過角色扮演，實際模疑關係中的互動狀況，從中覺察反思，讓我們更了解自己，經過練習，重新選擇，調整成最適合當下情境的行為，讓生活真正發生轉變。

八堂課課程內容非常豐富，從四種姿態的成因，到練習如何調整和運用。畫出自己和他人的冰山，並藉此探索冰山裡的影響脈絡。覺察自己的在關係中的角色，練習換位思考。練習覺察自己在情境中的期望和需要，是否表達了是否被滿足了。練習覺察反思自己的行為和動機是否一致。練習非暴力溝通，表達自己的感受，並且對方核對。

八堂課，讓你把理論「用」起來，在生活中看到和家人更增進彼此關係。行動起來，趕快手刀報名，數量有限，把握時間~

【課程大綱】

8/8(THU) ：四種溝通姿態

目標：學習、練習薩提爾的四種溝通姿態（指責、討好、超理智、打岔）

具體討論話題: 親子溝通

1.理論說明：介紹四種溝通姿態及其特性。
2.深入解說：分析每個手勢背後的心理動機和可能的情緒根源。
3.義工角色扮演體驗，反映真實生活情境。
4.思與討論：分成小組進行分享，義工分組協助和輔導。

作業：使用日常場景記錄溝通資態。

目標：理解心理動機和可能的情緒根源，從而避免衝突的有效溝通並提供更多同理心。

8/15(THU)：四種溝通姿勢

目標：學習並練習四種溝通姿勢（責備、討好、超級推理和打斷），並將其應用到實際關係中

1.回顧上一節：快速回顧一下四種溝通姿勢及其特點。
2.角色扮演：分成小組, 成員根據實際關係中的問題進行場景模擬，模擬不同的溝通姿態，分析效果. 讓我們的義工分組協助和輔導。
3.即時回饋：義工在模擬過程中提供即時回饋和指導。
4.改進和排練：根據回饋調整溝通方式，再次排練。
5.總結與未來計劃。

目標: 制定具體的溝通改進計劃。在情境模擬中練習和應用學到的姿勢。鼓勵參與者在未來的關係中繼續實踐他們所學到的知識。總結學習成果並制定未來的溝通改善計畫。

6.義工領導的支持小組，在小組中進行追蹤並幫助討論和keep accountability。

●總結反思：每位學員總結這兩堂課的學習收穫和個人成長。

●Material：總結記錄表、未來計畫範本。

9/5(THU)：冰山理論

目標：介紹目標和框架，建立信任和參與感

具體討論話題: 用冰山解讀自我和他人關係

1.冰山理論概述: 解釋冰山理論（表面行為與深層情感和信念）。

讓小組中的每個人利用他們面臨的具體問題來研究自己的冰山。讓我們的義工分組協助和指導。進行小組討論。

作業：用好奇心畫出周圍3個人的冰山，以便更了解實際應用。

目標：練習意識、理解和同理心，並使用冰山分析可能性, 協助冰山理論的實際使用。

9/13(FRI)：冰山理論深入探討

目標：深入了解冰山理論，探討表面問題和深層原因

1.複習冰山模型：透過具體案例展示如何應用冰山理論。
2.小組活動：參與者分組討論並繪製自己關係中的「冰山」。
3.分享與回饋：小組代表分享討論結果，讓我們的義工分組協助和指導。
4.Group discussion集體回饋。
5.義工領導的支持小組，在小組中進行追蹤並幫助討論和keep accountability。

●總結反思：每位學員總結這兩堂課的學習收穫和個人成長。

作業：當生活中遇到衝突時，用冰山來探索和解釋正在發生的事情。

目標：應用於生活情境，以建立更好的理解和認識觀點。

10/11(FRI) : 情感與視角

目標：探討情感在關係中的作用，學習換位思考的重要性

具體討論話題: 家庭關係

1.情緒辨識練習：幫助參與者辨識並表達自己的情緒。
2.視角轉換練習：透過角色扮演體驗不同的視角。
3.小組討論：討論情緒和觀點轉換對關係衝突的影響。

●Material：情緒詞彙表、角色扮演卡。

10/18(FRI) ：期望與需要

目標：理解期望與需要在關係中的作用，學習如何表達和調整期望

具體討論話題: 家庭關係

1.期望與需要講解：解釋兩者的差異與相互影響。
2.個人反思：參與者寫下自己對關係的期望和需要。
3.小組分享：分享個人反思，討論調整期望的方法。

作業：觀察自己的需求並與期望區分開來。寫日記並準備好在義工帶領的小組中進行小組討論

11/7(THU) ：一致性與實踐

目標：學習一致性的重要性，制定行動計畫以改善關係

具體討論話題: 個人關係中保持真誠與正直。這個主題可以探討如何在個人價值觀、信念和行動之間保持一致，從而促進更健康、更真誠的人際關係

1.一致性理論：

●理解一致性: 定義一致性及其在日常生活中的重要性。

●自我意識: 提高自我意識的技巧，認識個人價值觀和信念。

●溝通技巧: 表達自我真實性和積極傾聽的策略。

●克服障礙: 識別和解決保持一致性的常見障礙，如社會壓力和對評判的恐懼。

●實踐練習: 通過角色扮演和現實生活中的情境練習，在各種情況下保持一致性。

目標：提高自我覺察，理解自己的需求。

2.自我反思：

●每日反思自己的情感和需求。

●使用日記記錄下當天的主要情感事件及其背後的需求。

3.情感識別：

●通過冥想或靜心練習，提高對情感的敏感度。

●學習識別不同情感的身體信號和心理反應。

4.義工小組跟進小組討論，總結與回饋：總結學習成果，收集回饋，鼓勵持續實踐。

12/5(THU): 保持覺察並利用一致性來表達需求涉及到理解自己的想法、情感和行為，確保它們真實地對齊。

以下是一個結構化的方法來幫助你實現這一目標：

1.非暴力溝通（NVC）：

●學習NVC的四個步驟：觀察、感受、需求、請求。

●通過角色扮演練習NVC，確保表達清晰和尊重。

2.實際練習：

●在安全的環境中練習表達需求，如小組練習或與親密朋友對話。

●記錄每次練習的感受和反饋，不斷改進。

3.持續反饋

目標：創建三人小組, 通過反饋不斷優化自我表達。

●定期與可信賴的三人小組進行溝通，尋求反饋。

●反思和記錄反饋，找出改進的方向。

●自我評估: 使用一致性自我評估表，定期評估自己的表現。設置目標，逐步提高一致性和表達能力。

通過這些步驟和工具，逐步提高自我覺察，學習並實踐一致性表達，更有效地表達個人需求，避免衝突，並促進更健康、更和諧的關係。

8 Practical Lessons to Improve Mutual Relationships (8 Lessons)

Speaker: Dancing with the Elephant Volunteer Group

This course encompasses key psychological theories and practical applications, and helps participants resolve real-life relationship conflicts through interactive and reflective activities.

【Course Outline】8/8 (THU): Four Coping Stances

Goal: To learn and practice Satir’s four coping stances (Blaming, Placating, Acting Super-Reasonable, and irrelevant).
Specific Discussion Topic: Parent-child communication
Theoretical Explanation: Introduction to the four coping stances and their characteristics.
In-depth Explanation: Analysis of the psychological motivations and possible emotional roots behind each stance.
Volunteer Role-playing Experience: Learning through encountering real-life situations.
Reflection and Discussion: Small Group sharing, with volunteer assistance and guidance.
Homework: Learn how you use coping stances by recording your daily interactions.
Goal: To understand psychological motivations and possible emotional roots to avoid conflict, enable effective communication, and provide more empathy.

8/15 (THU): Four Coping Stances (Extended Version)

Goal: To learn and practice the four coping stances (Blaming, Placating, Super-Reasonable, and Irrelevant) and apply them to real relationships.

Review of Previous Session: Quickly review the four coping stances and their characteristics.
Role-Playing: Divide into small groups. Members simulate scenarios based on real relationship issues, testing different coping stances to analyze their effectiveness. Volunteers will assist and provide guidance.
Instant Feedback: Volunteers offer instant feedback and guidance during the simulation process.
Improvement and Practice: Adjust communication styles based on feedback and practice again.
Conclusion and Future Plans
Objective: Develop specific plans to improve communications. Practice and apply learned stances in scenario simulations.
Objective: Encourage participants to continue practicing their new found knowledge in future relationships. Summarize learning outcomes and formulate future communication improvement plans.
Material needed: Cards that list real-life scenarios.
Volunteer-led support groups will track progress within the groups, facilitate discussions, and maintain accountability.
Reflection and Summary: Each participant will summarize their learning outcomes and personal growth from these two sessions.Material needed: Summary log sheet, template of future plan.

9/5 (FRI): Iceberg Theory

Goal: To introduce objectives and framework; To establish trust and participation.
Specific Discussion Topic: Interpreting self and others’ relationships using the iceberg theory.
Overview of Iceberg Theory: Explain the iceberg theory (Superficial behaviors versus underlying emotions and beliefs). Each member in the group will use specific issues they are facing to examine their own iceberg. Volunteers will assist and guide the groups. Conduct group discussions.
Homework: Draw the icebergs of three people around you with curiosity to better understand practical applications of the theory..
Objective: Practice awareness, understanding, and empathy. Use iceberg theory to analyze and assist in the practical application of the theory.

9/13 (FRI): In-Depth Exploration of the Iceberg Theory

Goal: To deepen understanding of the iceberg theory; To explore surface issues and underlying causes.
Review of the Iceberg Model: Use specific cases to demonstrate application of the iceberg theory.
Group Activity: Participants will discuss in groups and draw their own “icebergs” in their relationships.
Sharing and Feedback: Group representatives will share discussion results. Volunteers will assist and guide the groups.
Group Discussion and Feedback:
Volunteer-Led Support Groups will track progress, facilitate discussions, and maintain accountability within their groups.
Reflection and Summary: Each participant will summarize their learning outcomes and personal growth from these two sessions.
Homework: When facing conflicts in daily life, use the iceberg model to explore and explain what is happening.
Objective: Apply the model to real-life situations to build better understanding and perspective.

10/11 (FRI): Emotions and Perspectives

Goal: To explore the effect of emotions in relationships, learn the importance of putting yourself in other’s shoes.
Specific Discussion Topic: Family relationships
Emotion Identification Practice: Help participants identify and express their emotions.
Perspective-Shifting Exercise: Experience different perspectives through role-playing.
Group Discussion: Discuss the impact of emotional and perspective shifts on relationship conflicts.

Materials needed: Emotion vocabulary list, role-playing cards.
10/18 (FRI): Expectations and Needs

Goal: To understand the role of expectations and needs in relationships; To learn how to express and adjust expectations.
Specific Discussion Topic: Family relationships
Explanation of Expectations and Needs: Explain the differences between expectations and needs, and how they influence each other.
Personal Reflection: Participants write down their own expectations and needs in relationships.
Group Sharing: Share personal reflections and discuss methods to adjust expectations.
Homework: Observe personal needs and distinguish them from expectations. Write a journal and prepare for group discussions led by volunteers.

11/7 (THU): Congruence and Practice

Goal: To larn the importance of congruencel To develop action plans to improve relationships.
Specific Discussion Topic: Maintaining authenticity and honesty in personal relationships. This theme explores how to align personal values, beliefs, and actions to foster healthier and more authentic interpersonal relationships.
Congruence Theory
Understanding congruence: Define congruence and its importance in daily life.
Self-awareness: Enhance self-awareness skills, recognize personal values and beliefs.
Communication skills: Strategies to express authenticity and active listening.
Overcoming obstacles: Identify and resolve common barriers to maintaining congruence, such as social pressures and fear of criticism.
Practice exercises: Maintain congruence in various situations through role-playing and practicing real-life scenarios.
Objective: Increase self-awareness and understand personal needs.
Self-Reflection:

Reflect daily on emotions and needs of oneself.
Use a journal to record major emotional events of the day and their underlying needs.

Emotion Identification:
Enhance sensitivity to emotions through meditation or mindfulness practices.
Learn to recognize physical signals and psychological responses to different emotions.
Volunteer-led Follow-up Group discussions, Summary, and Feedback:
Summarize learning outcomes, gather feedback, and encourage ongoing practice.

12/5 (THU): Maintaining awareness and utilizing congruence to express needs which involves understanding one’s own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors to ensure they align authentically. Here’s a structured approach to help you achieve this goal:

Nonviolent Communication (NVC):
Learn the four steps of NVC: Observation, Feeling, Need, Request.
Practice NVC through role-playing to ensure clear and respectful expression.
Practical Exercises:
Practice expressing needs in a safe environment, such as group exercises or conversations with close friends.
Record feelings and feedback from each practice session, continuously improving.
Ongoing Feedback
Objective: Create a group of three people to continually optimize self-expression.
– Regularly communicate with a trusted group of three for feedback.
– Reflect on and document feedback to identify areas for improvement.
– Self-assessment: Use a congruence self-assessment form to regularly evaluate performance. Set goals to gradually improve congruence and expression skills.
Through these steps and tools, gradually increase self-awareness, learn and practice congruent expression, more effectively articulate personal needs, avoid conflicts, and promote healthier and more harmonious relationships.
Notice

Please note that classes in August, November, and December are on Thursdays, while classes in September and October are on Fridays.
Daylight Saving Time begins at 2:00 AM on November 3rd (Sunday). Asian participants, please take note of the class time changes.

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